Aggression is everywhere around us. It is one of the most serious problems nowadays, but to change that depends on us. There are many reasons for aggressive behaviors, we see more and more aggression between young people, especially students.
Our website wants to address the problem with the aggression between them and it can be used in different lessons in schools and other events for reduction and prevention of the aggressive behavior.
The aggression is a phenomenon for which everybody speaks continuously on different occasions and in a different meaning. But what does it mean to be aggressive?
Aggression is to defend your rights and needs in a hostile way, usually with disregard, prevalence, humiliation, ignoring the others. Sometimes the aggression can also be targeted to yourself. It can be expressed in different ways – from ridicule and insults (verbal aggression) to physical violence.
Reasons for aggression can be the others’ hostile actions to us, the emotions that we experience, aggressive actions in our surroundings – the aggression shown on TV, in video games, on social networks, and aggression in the family.
Why do teenagers show aggression?
The reasons are different – the emotional problems, related to puberty, different complexes or a sense of fear, the desire to emulate some celebrities, friends or parents, the boredom, intention to do forbidden things which make them feel like heroes. Usually the aggressive behavior is born from previous acts of aggression – when the teenager has been a victim of it. The use of alcohol and drugs change the way we think, change our mind and they can also make us aggressive.
The story in “Lost” is a work of fiction which wants to show the reasons for aggression and the consequences of it. They are interpreted in a different and contemporary way – through the eyes of the teenager. The dealing with aggression has to start with re-thinking its meaning and we hope that “Lost” will set up the beginning.
All the frames of the movie are shot by the authors of the project.
A phenomenon that occurs much more often than we think. It may be hidden behind an ironic smile or irrepressible indirect comment but you understand that it is targeted at you and your weak spot. The passive-aggressive person knows that too. Unlike the obvious manifestation of aggression, its passive form is delicate but not harmless. It crosses our borders, confuses our minds and most of all it hurts us purposefully.
Which are the most common signs of passive aggression and how to deal with them?
Silence and ignorance
Completely ignoring, silence, pretending that the others are not in the room and refusal to enter into direct communication. The silence is one of the most common and painful forms of rejection and passive aggression that probably everyone of us has ever experienced. How to deal with it? The best way is to explain how we feel and to give space to the other person because this type of aggression means that the others feel in a stalemate and don’t know other ways to protect themselves.
Insults and ironic jokes
They don’t even often sound like insults but rather as something quite normal even benevolent and usually accompanied with a smile. But the pain they cause is totally sensible. Maybe you will recognize them because of the ironic intonation or the thin passage of the border of benevolence. How to deal with them? It is not easy to set a border when the insult is not obvious. If we say something directly to such a person, he will pretend that there is nothing like that and even throw at us a new portion of hidden insult. Try not to react.
Complaining without end
People who always complain about everything and everyone and who are never satisfied with anybody and anything actually manifest passive aggression. This is the way in which these people show their needs and emotionally and mentally load and expel the people who they have chosen for their listeners who actually become victims. How to deal with this type of passive aggression? Do not go into the role of „the listener“ because you will leave the stage exhausted and with the feeling that you failed in the listening and consolation. You can’t change the way a person like this thinks because he has turned the complaint into a way for living and surviving.
Do not underestimate the passive aggression, look carefully and protect yourself on time!
Aggressive behavior is a complicated phenomenon which can be changed on certain conditions and specific interventions.
According to psychologists and psychotherapists the punishment can be useful, only if it is used wisely with respect for the human personality. It must be clear that it punishes the behavior not the personality. Very important for the efficiency of the punishment is its stringency and restrictive force. The harsh and restrictive punishment is one of the main reasons for aggression and it is wise to avoid these approaches.
The topic of the punishment is related to the punishment of another person… Punishing the aggressive models has preventive influence. It is said that the aggressiveness of a child can be reduced if we show him an aggressive model in which the end is bad.
Another possibility, tested in studies, clinical and parental experience, is to award the non-aggressive, alternative models of behaviour.
One of the working models for preventing the aggression is the development of empathy to the others. For most people it is difficult to cause pain deliberately to another human being and this can be used.